Hey everyone....Yes, I've been M.I.A. lately. It's due to a major blog "funk" that I've been in. Sorry.
My life has been I guess what you would call hectic. I've been playing single mom a lot due to the hubby having jobs in three different states. :( I'll try to do Gavin's 4 month post next week after his Dr. visit, so everyone can see how much he's grown!
I'm giving one of my besties a baby shower Saturday, and working on 2 others as much as I can. Plus there are 5 family birthdays this month-in which all are celebrated. Work is obviously super busy. My a/c has been getting worked on every day this week meaning I have had to leave work a lot. And I was occupied trying to find a nanny/mothers day out for Gavin.
I finally found one and she is pretty great. He will be starting soon on Monday, Wed., & Fri. and will be going to her house where there will only be 2 other kids. Christ is a big part of her life and she is very experienced, so I feel pretty good about this. Finding her was definitely tough though.
Anyways, I'm in need of some advice!! Even if you aren't a follower, please comment if you think you can help.
Gavin started sleeping thru the night at 3 months. BUT, he suddenly stopped. He wakes up at 3-3:30 and doesn't go back to sleep till he gets a bottle. Well, a couple weeks ago, I finally decided to put him in his own room in his own crib. That night was great b/c he slept for 9 1/2 hrs straight! Great right?....wrong! Every since then, he is waking up throughout the night. Granted, he's been sick all week, but not last night and he still woke up 3 times! I feel like I am failing as a parent that I can't get my child to sleep through the night. I've tried double feeding him at bedtime. I've tried letting him cry it out-but he starts choking and I can't take it. In the morning at about 5 when he wakes up, there is no getting him back to sleep unless I bring him to bed with me and let him fall asleep on my chest. I know it's bad, but I'm exhausted!!
If ANYONE knows what else I can do....please share! I'm desperate here!
7 comments:
I'm not a mom...so I'm just throwing these things out there...
But, could he be going through a growth spurt and be waking up because he's hungry?
Or maybe it was just because he was sick and so he woke up last night because he was used to waking up the last few nights?
Rosie, the exact same thing happened to us at about 4 and a half months. And it was so easy to bring Avery Claire to bed with us, 'cause she'd sleep there. But, I've started back to work and that just wasn't cuttin' it...so we've been crying it out this week, and I think things are getting better (but I do not like the process!). I know I'm not giving you any advice, but I wanted you to know you're not alone!! A friend of mine had the same problem when her son was about the same age - wonder what it is about 4ish months?!
Gosh, Rosie, I'm so sorry that it's been so overwhelming lately. I don't have any big advice since we haven't gone through that yet. Night waking does happen a lot when they have growth spurts and/or going through new development stages. I think what's harder for you right now is that you are alone and going through it all. I pray that this will only be a passing phase for Gavin and things get back to normal. You are a wonderful mother, so do not question yourself! I'll be praying for you and at the end of the day, just try to do what you feel is right. That's the beauty of things....you're the momma and you can make the rules. Hang in there! :)
Love,
V
rosie....ashlyn sleeps through the night and very rarley wakes up and audree was the same. What time does he normally go to bed? Is he up a lot during the day? Could he be teething? At your 4 month checkup ask the Dr when you can start giving cereal, this might help hold him over more through the night. I think we started Audree around 4.5 months. Ill ask about Ashlyn when we go in Monday for her 4 month checkup. You are a good momma, and its esp hard right now while your hubby is working out of state. Just keep your head up and keep going! hes handsome
Rosie -
I found your blog through the Safe Haven website. Cute little guy you have there!
My little man slept through the night at 6 wks and I thought I was good to go when I went back to work. Shortly thereafter (around 4- 5 months) he began doing the same thing...waking up, crying out, etc.
1. He was beginning to cut teeth - though it didn't break through for a while, the tooth floated up and down for about a month which caused serious pain. Orajel was a godsend during this time, as were cold washrags.
2. He needed more food. We began cereal around this time which helped a bit.
3. He had just gone back to daycare and was checking in with me (at night). I found that if he woke up crying, I would let it go for about 5 minutes, then go in to check on him. If he calmed down once I picked him up, I knew it was just a desire to be held/comforted back to sleep. (if not, I knew it was teeth, hunger, or dirty diapers) We went through a rough patch of learning to self-sooth. This took about a week of crying himself to sleep to get the hang of it.
I know it is rough right now but it will pass and more restful nights are to come. I will pray that he recovers from this challenge quickly. Ours lasted about 4 months b/c he got his first 4 teeth over that time frame.
Katie
Honey, I wish I could be of some help and give you advice, but I know nothing when it comes to parenthood, BUT I DO KNOW ONE THING, and thats that you are a terrific parent, so please don't feel like you are failing. You are doing a wonderful job and I am so proud of you!! I love you lots, keep your pretty head up--he will be back to sleeping through the night in no time.
xoxo
Oh Rosie, you're a good mom! Dont let you feel that way. Every baby has their hard moments & it's difficult for any mom to understand why or what to do. My girlfriend told me this when Rylie was very tiny & you might already be doing this, but here goes. She said a big important thing to do with bedtime is keep a schedule. Every single night at the exact same time, do the bath, then message with lotion, dressed in jammies, turn on the music, give last bottle & put in bed. You might not do all those steps we did or even add more of your own, but we started that & immediately saw progress. I've heard of some babies just not sleeping well for a long period of time & then parents try the white noise machine. Rylie's always slept with music playing & it's helped her become a deep sleeper, so try that as well! Hope yall get a smoother night soon!
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